one of the comments on devtalk said this:”
ThinkingPolygons Dec ’18 The OP is right, this is a long time issue in blender, most of the things are not where you expect it to be.”
point is my suggestion may not be the best method but there is a problem. I realize you have your hands full, but addressing this would be precicely the sort of thing that I would want to find from using Bofartist over blender, & so others not need experience these quirks,
I think maybe just having a website devoted to highlighting blender’s quirkyness would almost do more than a fork would at least in terms of getting a solution out sooner.
since 2.8 is quite far ahead by now, some fiddling / pie menu customization and such can remedy a lot.